To be or not to be? Was that really a question ever?

Ray 8# A new Future.  No more right or wrong. Accepting reality. Being free.                          Life in itself has no meaning. What? Life in itself is empty and meaningless. Excuse me!!? Life in itself is empty and meaningless. And it is empty and meaningless that it is empty and meaningless. Yes, really!        That doesn`t mean life isn't valuable or important.  That would be adding a meaning. LIfe is what it is: Life!  And I think it is awesome. But a whole lot of what we make life mean comes from our creative minds. We give meaning to events, to things that happen, to the way people look at us. And as long as that meaning empowers us, makes us happy, it is great. It is being human. Meaning making machines  But let's look at right & wrong. Two meanings we can choose out. Right & wrong.  Are they part of life?  Don`t they exist? Yes, the...

Ray 7#  Human Beings are Story Inventors. After nature, our stories start to dictate our being.  Only would we know we created our stories ourselves... Only would we know we have believe our stories as if they were true. Giving those storied up, allowing the reality that what you have believed in all your life is not The truth, takes courage. The moment we are born, we are helpless creatures, totally depending on our parents. The way to communicate about our needs is to make noise, cry and scream. There is no choice in any being at all. Nature, instinct dictates our being and survival is the theme. Around two years old we discover language. The world around us is getting meaning by naming everything. We learn to communicate by language. We cry and scream less and less and ask for what we need. Later on we will learn to debate and even manipulate through language. And we start building the story of who we are. Events that happen, things, painful words that parents...

Ray 6#. The animal inside us, the origin of our Being. Do we always need to have a say over our being? Do we always have to be stronger than an animal and be in control of our being? Is reacting to what happens in an instinctive way, like animals do, wrong? NO! Of course Not. Our origin is nature.  Our origin is survival. Our origin is like an animal. It is our instinct. We eat when we are hungry We drink when we are thirsty. We sleep when we are tired. We get angry when we feel a threat or when something is taken from us, We feel like fighting for what is important. We are sad and greeve when we lose something or someone dear. And there is our social need: physical contact, bonding, being together, making love, having sex. All part of the drive that is at the root of our survival of our species. We are satisfied, content or complete, when things go the way we want them to go. Being afraid when it gets too much: tells us to look around us,  to run or...

Ray #5. So do I have the power to choose what way I am being in any situation? Can I always choose to be friendly, angry, loyal, calm, or any other way of being? Yes, I think I can. Though it may not seem to be possible always. Or even desirable. But very often,  I'm convinced we have a say over our being. It is common to get angry when someone is yelling at you. But it is possible to be calm under those circumstances as well. It is common to be irritated when someone is bossing me around. But I can also be clear about what I need to do and tell the other one to go take a hike with a smile on my face. It is common to be cranky after a broken night, But one can get himself together, take a deep breath and be friendly to a customer. These are day to day situations, especially at work, where we know we can choose who we are, who and what we are being. Up to a certain level? Who knows? It gets harder at home..... With a partner who always leaves his shoes l...

Ray 4#. I am what I am? Do Human Beings really have a say in who they are being? Or does our being arise from some unknown well? It is your fault that I am angry! He makes me sad. I can`t help it, it is just the way I am . They make me do this!  I am irritated because of them. We all know phrases like this, don`t we? We know that they aren`t really true too.  We say others are responsable for the way we are being.  We give away the responsability over our being.  And by doing so we give away the power over our being. These outcries however do illustrate how common and accepted it is to give away the power over our being as well. I think one only get angry if one believes that the nasty word that is thrown at you is true. I believe somebody only gets sad if he/she decides to believe the painful words the other one utters.  Or that it reflects an inner story to be distinguished. Even if you lose something or someone dear in you life, you can choose h...

Ray 3#. I am because you are. I am being a certain way of being, because you are here. Your presence elicits my being. Human beings are social beings. They do not thrive well in isolation. Being alone at home, listening to music, watching a movie,  playing with a dog, we can be afraid, happy, sad or angry . But our being arises mostly with people. Alone, we are being nothing. Not because we are nothing. Just because we are alone. There is no one who calls us into being. I think we all know a situation in which we feel grumpy.  Then a good friend comes by and suddenly we feel cheerful.  Or the other way around:  We are at peace and the nasty neighbour barges in without knocking at the door..... What way of being will arise from that occasion? What possibilty of my being will be unveiled by your presence today? Will I be glad? Patient? Bored? Excited? Helpful? Irritated? And will it merely pop up? Or do I have a say in the ma...